Paper and Lace is, and will always be, head over heels in love with weddings. But as part of my new year resolution (so far so good) my mission is to spend more time developing my brain, my passions and my relationships with those I love.

What does that mean for you? In addition to your regular fix of luscious lace and breathtaking brides… we will be digging a little deeper. Oooohhh yeeeaaah. What do I want to accomplish? One million things. But lets just start with one. OK two.

1. I want a marriage more beautiful than my wedding.

2. I want to nurture my soul.

And I want you to share in my journey. Join me, if you will. You might think I’m bonkers. I am. And things may just get a little crazy up in here. Your mission each session (should you choose to accept) is to let it bounce around in your brain for a bit, like space invaders in the 80′s… then try it… use it… do it. And let me know how it’s going. What your achieving. We are all in the same boat (and I’m more than happy to share my paddle… or my arm when either of us are up shit creek without one)

To get started, meet Danielle LaPorte. Dont know who she is? Go get acquainted. This guru goddess is taking over my brain… in the best possible way…

♥ 10 Lame Ideas, Notions, Concepts, Beliefs & Standards To Let Go of On Your Way To Fulfillment ♥

1. Let go of the belief that you’re not worthy of your desires. You are worthy of your desires.

2. Let go of the fear-based notion that you have to say yes to everything in order to be liked, loved, profitable, charitable, kind. Fewer yeses can actually help you be more generous with your giving.

3. Let go of promises that you’ve outgrown. If a commitment is keeping you smaller or duller or safer than the person you’ve become, then it’s not serving anyone.

4. Let go of the insidiously subconscious standard that how you were treated in the past is how you should be treated now. Your family, your old boy/girl/friend, or your last boss may not be the best metric by which to measure how you want to be treated. You’ve grown — your standards for love should grow with you.

5. Let go of the incredibly sexy-dullifying belief that you’ll never get what you want the most. (See #1: You are worthy of your desires.)

6. Let go of the material shit that you just don’t like. In fact, if you don’t LOVE it, make a plan to get rid of it. Too tight, too shabby, brings up bad memories. As me n’ my girls habitually remind each other: “Fuckin-get-ridda-it.”

7. Let go of the concept that art is a luxury. It’s a necessity. A home without human-created art is like a face without eyes.

8. For the love of life, let go of the idea that there’s not enough time. You are the source of time in your life.

9. Let go of the crippling notion that your needs are merely wants. If you really really really deeply truly want to be seen, heard, met, or respected — well then, that’s probably a veritable need that you must have fulfilled to be … fulfilled. (And you should set out to have that need met on a daily basis.)

10. Let go of the “what sucks” story in your life. There’s lots to bitch about — and you should bitch — bitching can be incredibly life-affirming, clarifying and galvanizing. But then stop bitching.

Create a story of your future and tell it over and over again. A future that you’re looking forward to — a future of fulfilled desires, enoughness, plenty of time, and works of art everywhere.

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