Comparison is the thief of joy. A little late night reading…

In a world of online achievers, it is easy to fall prey to the thief of joy. Comparison.

And when it comes to the world of beautiful blogs (and even more beautiful bloggers) more often than not, the more I look, the more I compare. And the more I compare, the more I want to throw in the towel.

But at the end of the day, I do it because it makes me happy. And I think that is a good enough reason to continue… don’t you?

The same goes for the real world. Busy, busy, busy, bake this, make that, be the perfect wife, live the perfect life, and then compare yourself to everyone else doing the same on facebook.

Want the truth?

I am a rubbish cook, a terrible gardener and sometimes I stay in my p.j’s until lunch time. I burnt the last batch of muffins I made, I drink way too much wine, and I would happily dine out everyday of the week if I could afford it. I suffer from depression, infertility, and have put on nearly 5kgs since my wedding day. Status update that.

And so today I wanted to share something from the inspirational Danielle LaPorte. Because no matter what your status update claims, we can all do with a little reassurance… right?

The standards by which you measure yourself

There will always be someone in your line of work, doing the same sort of thing that you’re doing, who will make more money than you. Way more.

There will always be someone you grew up with who “made it” — further than you have.

A peer who is out-selling, out-travelling, out-doing … you.

You live in the same neighbourhood, but they got the bigger house.

Same social circle, but they’ve got the better … whatever.

Same desires, but they landed the dream deal.

You know what?…

Who cares.

If you measure your success against someone else’s results, you will never be free – ever.

The only metric that matters: How free and fulfilled do you feel doing what you’re doing?

It’s not a status question because…

If you play the status game, there’s always someone who can out status you.

Your life. Your version of success.

To find out more about Danielle LaPorte click here.

Go easy on yourself beautiful people ♥


  1. paper and lace

    July 3, 2013

    Thank you for stopping by! xox

  2. Pillows A-La-Mode

    May 23, 2013

    Beautiful post . . . thank you!

  3. paper and lace

    May 22, 2013

    Hello beautiful lady, always love hearing from you.So true indeed, it is such a pressure we put on ourselves and SO hard to un-learn. Hope you slept well knowing you are not alone, and thank you for popping back this morning to comment. Mwah.

  4. paper and lace

    May 22, 2013

    Well said Jenna! Thank you for your comment, so nice to know I am not alone on this one! xx

  5. Hazel Schreiner

    May 22, 2013

    I have your posts come straight to my inbox and last night when I was getting ready to go to sleep I saw my phone flash and just ‘had to’ check it… as you do! The post felt raw, and I really respect you sharing this with us Jax! I went to sleep thinking of some of the points that you raised and how I find myself to be in competition with so many of my peers, I’m sure it is something that comes from going to a girls’ school! The problem with this frame of mind is that it is SO hard to un-learn it! No matter how aware you are of it, no matter how much you fight it, I at least find that it is always there nagging in the background!

    Great post, it provoked such thought within me that I just had to pop back and comment this morning!! 🙂 Hazel x

  6. jennahq

    May 22, 2013

    A friend, who is no longer, once quoted me that phrase “comparison is the thief of joy” and I thieved it myself and tell it to people often now. When they are down on their luck and comparing themselves to those around them I throw it out there. Don’t let anyone else’s life take away from yours, from what you have. What’s the point? Easier said than done though, sometimes. It’s a new mantra of mine (among the many/ever changing mantras i say I adopt and then forget until a situation arises for me to then remember such mantras 🙂 ) – I guess what I’m trying to say is: thanks for the reminder!

  7. paper and lace

    May 22, 2013

    Hey Cassiefairy, thank you for your comment. Yep we could all do with a little less comparison, a little more self love. Danielle LaPorte is awesome with awesome sauce x

  8. Cassiefairy

    May 22, 2013

    It is SO true, I’m forever comparing myself & my work with others – hardly ever favourably! I definitely need to take more inspiration from Danielle LaPorte 🙂 Thanks for sharing this x

  9. paper and lace

    May 21, 2013

    Thank you so much Veronica xx

  10. Veronica @ Creative Hearts

    May 21, 2013

    This was a really touching post… good on you for sharing, so raw and so true and we can all relate in someway.. xx

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